Welcome to The Heartbeat, the official blog of Heartland Marriage and Family Therapy.

Here, I share insights from my practice, explore the latest research in psychology and human relationships, and offer guidance to help you live a more connected life - from the heart.

More Than Just Worry: Understanding and Overcoming the Crisis of Teen Anxiety
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More Than Just Worry: Understanding and Overcoming the Crisis of Teen Anxiety

Adolescent anxiety has reached epidemic proportions, with many teens facing a serious mental health crisis marked by high rates of anxiety, depression, and self-harm. This isn't just temporary worry; it's a clinical condition that significantly disrupts concentration, school attendance, and meaningful social relationships. Untreated anxiety during these critical years can lead to long-term physical and mental health problems, limiting a fulfilling adult life.

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The Annual Seasonal Slump: Is It Normal, or Is It SAD?
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The Annual Seasonal Slump: Is It Normal, or Is It SAD?

The shorter days bring a natural urge to slow down, often labeled the "winter blues." But when seasonal fatigue, intense carbohydrate cravings, and persistent listlessness become so severe that they actually prevent you from performing your job or maintaining relationships, you may be crossing the line into Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a clinical subtype of depression. Don't simply try to tough out debilitating symptoms; read the full article to understand the critical biological difference, learn the red flags of clinical SAD, and discover evidence-based light and lifestyle strategies to stabilize your mood this winter.

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Are You Arguing or Being Gaslit? How to Spot the Difference
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Are You Arguing or Being Gaslit? How to Spot the Difference

Do you ever leave an argument with your partner feeling confused and questioning your own memory?

Healthy arguments happen, but they're built on mutual respect. Gaslighting is different. It's a form of manipulation built on control, designed to make you doubt your own reality. It's the difference between a partner who says, "I see it differently," and one who insists, "That never happened" or "You're just being too sensitive."

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A New Era of Grieving: How New Research is Redefining Our Experience of Loss
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A New Era of Grieving: How New Research is Redefining Our Experience of Loss

For a long time, public perception was dominated by the idea of grief as a linear process, often characterized by the “five stages” of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. However, modern science has revealed a far more nuanced and personal journey, and this new knowledge is guiding the development of more effective and compassionate support in a rapidly changing age of digital tools.

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Can This Marriage Be Saved? Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity
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Can This Marriage Be Saved? Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity

Infidelity shatters the foundation of a relationship, leaving a path of profound pain, betrayal, and a difficult question: "Can we ever trust each other again?" In this edition of The Heartbeat, the blog of Heartland Marriage and Family Therapy, I delve into the complexities of infidelity and explore the challenging, yet possible, journey of rebuilding trust.

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Navigating Political Differences in Family: A Guide to Connection and Empathy.
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Navigating Political Differences in Family: A Guide to Connection and Empathy.

It's easy to assume that if only our family members understood the "facts," they would change their minds. However, our political beliefs are often deeply intertwined with our group identity, making a challenge to those views feel like a direct attack on who we are. A political discussion is rarely just a disagreement over policy; it's a perceived threat to a person's sense of self and belonging.

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